On Keeping My Child’s Face Off Social Media
I have the most adorable, the happiest and most funnest baby in the world.
It’s true. And not just counting the babies that currently exist, I actually mean of any baby that has ever lived or is ever going to live. He surpasses them all in personality, cuteness and sass. He makes me so grateful and glad to be a mum, even on the hardest days.
I know, I know.
Clearly, every mum thinks this of their own child. And in the day of internet and social media, we now have a very vocal, very visual platform to be able to share it.
It is actually an amazing time to be alive, to be able to be connected with everybody in the blink of an eye, to be able to see selective snippets of peoples’ lives at the click of a finger. To share in the joy, the hardships, the hilarious moments that could normally go unwitnessed with the exception of the parent or family that got to be there for that very moment.
In this day and age, I’m also very grateful for other mums’ opinions.
Oh, there is a definite need for a strong filter and clear discernment while perusing through the growing mountain of angry keyboard warriors and influential fear-inducing clickbait. But if you can push through the stereotypical garbage floating on the surface, it is amazing how groups of women can come together through sharing trial and error, while opening up about their experiences and asking (and answering) the hard questions.
Having said all of this, there is one boundary I have with the internet:
My husband and I have chosen not to put our son’s face on social media for at least this season of time.
Let me clear the air, for us and for anyone else who also decides to opt this route: we have no issue or judgement towards anyone else’s decision in this area; we are not afraid of advancing technology in our kids’ lives; we do want to be careful partially due to the ‘open nature’ of the internet; and we are fully aware that when our son is older, he might be a selfie king.
Who can blame him? He’s the most handsome boy to have ever existed.
But my husband and I are actually, believe it or not, reasonably private people.
All of our social media accounts are set to private. We like spending time alone and we value the intimacy of family (and framily). When we do post, we share pictures of food and football over milestones and moments. That’s because we have decided that our truly special moments are just for us.
I have friends who love to celebrate out loud, and that has been just beautiful to be a part of. For us, it’s been our decision to celebrate in the quiet of our own home, and then share our videos and stories over a walk or a coffee with those we love most.
I have also been so thankful to have such understanding friends and family who support our decision, who have taken down or excluded select photos from important events to respect our choice.
It feels trivial when you spend the first season of time explaining your choice to everyone, as if you’re implying somehow they were being irresponsible, but stay strong. Loving friends and family will respect your decision, regardless of their own choices. Share your heart, stick to your convictions and you will be surprised how incredibly understanding people are.
Whatever you decide to do with the 19,342 photos (that’s a real number, folks) of your incredibly cute offspring is entirely up to you and completely personal.
Just remember even if your child is very cute, they won’t be nearly as cute as my son… but you’ll have to take my word for it.
See also: Recently lifestyle blogger Elsie Larson opened up about her plans to shield her new daughter from the spotlight.
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Kat lives in Perth, Western Australia and is pretty happy with her dandy life of 30 years. She is married to Andrew, who is a freelance graphic designer, all-around cool guy and now dad to their ridiculously adorable little boy.
Kat is a manager of a cafe, with a background that looks like a bag of assorted mixed lollies – administration, finance, selling yoghurt, image consulting, making coffee, and account managing. She loves Jesus, reading, drinking a decent cup of coffee, writing and cooking.