What to Expect when you’re Expecting… Again! How a second pregnancy is totally different to a first
Next year our three becomes four. We are elated… and a tad terrified. During my first pregnancy I remember reading and researching, pondering the changes in my body and the growth of the baby inside, leisurely perusing the literature and rubbing my belly. This time around has already been a very different experience. I’d love to share with you five ways my second pregnancy is different from my first.
- I’m Only “Normal” Really Tired
If I remember anything about my first pregnancy, it is how tired I felt. When we found out we were expecting our second I was nervous that I would not be able to cope with the exhaustion on top of a toddler to chase. Turns out my normal level of tiredness is now way way more tired than it was before having our first. And napping is now totally normal in our house. And we go to bed *ahem* just a tad earlier. Some may say that since becoming a parent my lifestyle has slowed down, others might judge me as having the sleeping habits of a Granny – I say, I have conquered exhaustion! High fives all round people!
- I Don’t Recall
With Baby One I could tell you how far along in the pregnancy I was because I had an app that told me every day. Now I’m lucky if I know what day of the week it is, let alone how many days pregnant I am. Instead of looking forward to my carefully planned appointment schedule I have to set alarms to remind myself to go, and maybe attach a note of how far along I am in case I’m expected to be keeping up with that. The other day my midwife called and asked how far along I was – and I told her! The fact that this was a proud achievement for me is a good indicator of the point. To be totally honest before my belly started to pooch and give me a constant reminder of my new little’s existence (and that was way earlier than round one too – yikes!) I kind of kept forgetting that I was even pregnant most of the time. Like, seriously why does this milk taste weird, you don’t taste that!? Oh wait a minute… growing a human, never mind.
- I Know What I Don’t Need
This time I don’t think about the baby stuff. Before Baby One arrived, I remember reading those lists of essential baby items; you know the ones that tell you how broke you will now be, forever. I now know that if you’ve got a car seat, somewhere for baby to sleep, some clothes and a couple of blankets – take a deep breath- it’s all going to be ok! Amazingly, the shops don’t unexpectedly close up once your baby arrives and you can even ask people to pick things up when they come to visit.
- I’m Capping my Expectations
With our first baby, I had no experience and no expectations, but with baby two I have to curb what I now think I know. This new child will likely be completely different from the first, with their own quirks; not a copy but a whole new person requiring some things the same and some different from me. Plus, things just aren’t going to work the same as baby one and me – we’ll need to tread new ground, and we’ve got whole new family dynamics to tackle this time. It’s all new – which brings me to my last point.
- And Then There Was Exponential Growth
Instead of thinking about us and the baby, I’m thinking about what it means to interact as a family of four. Currently it’s pretty simple –me and hubby as a couple, each of us with our son, and all three of us as a little family. Baby Two is going to give our family a whole new round of relationships. Now there’ll be two kids to spend time one-on-one with each parent; we each get to find out how we each go with two kids at once; the first sibling relationship of our family is being created; and we’ll be finding new ways that we spend time together as a family of four. It’s a family dynamics explosion!
Hey there Little Two, we’re excited to meet you.
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Cat is a follower of Jesus, the tea-drinking wife of a coffee roaster and the stay-at-home mum of one busy toddler. She delights in the mingling of art and science, small and simple pleasures, wit and whimsy, and the doing of life. Her heart is to encourage. When she’s not pottering behind the scenes at Precision Coffee Roasters, you’ll likely find her eating cake, trying new recipes, making lists, or just playing – with or without a child.